Create a New You!

Create a new you, whether with little step or giant leaps it just a choice.
Thinking hard to decide whether work at the office or work at home, while my children are still 2 years old and 10 months old. Dont know but I always have a hard feeling to leave them along with their grandma and baby sitter. I know, they need me a lot so do with their daddy, to accompany them reading a book, watching film, playing and also sleeping:)

Sure, they are happy showered with love and care from their grandma and babysitter. But, do they quite patient waiting for me, their mom, for almost 8 hours?

Everytime I go home, I always see their eyes that they miss me a lot. None can plead them to stay away from me although only for a while, they never give me a chance even only a little bit break, to take a bath, straighten out my feet, a long and deep breath. Coz they miss me a lot!

I have to create a new Me! Leave this job and make a manuver to be a WAHM, Work At Home Mom.
I have been inspired after joining Bunda In Biz ( mom in business) Community. This community really encourage me to do a different thing, the thing that I should do for my family. Working at Home! at my home! at my family home!

While working I can watching my children, thats what I want! My dream. I can share my jobs to others, to give and share my happiness with others. To be an entepreneur! Entepreneur Mom!

Thank You ALLAH, you alwaya shine my way, and guide me... hopefully, it is really you blessed way of mine.
Thank You hunny, who always encourage me and 'immer da fuer mich, ich liebe dich, liebling!'
Thank You Arsya & Kamila, who always miss me and support me in your own way
Thank You mama, for caring my children.
Thanks You mba, for always helping my family.

Pizza’s and the Google Earth



This morning, when I visited Google Earth, just remember what had I got 4 years ago and really happy with I have found on GE.

Still fresh in my mind when Mr. Freckmann, My Professor delegated us, the new student of Geomatic Engineering 2002 to design and constellating the new Pizza’s shop in our city, Karlsruhe.
“Whats?” Said my Pakistani Friend Ahsan, “how comes we can put on the pizza shop in very attractive and competitive place? While we’re not the marketing man? “
“Good question”, said Peter ( my prof’s little name, my fave). Then we sat together, thinking hard how to place the pizza shop on our map. Many opinions, many argumentation, but going to the conclusion that “IT IS NOT DIFFICULT TO PLACE THE PIZZA’S SHOP ON OUR MAP, ON ITS BEST PLACE”
So, share the team become 2 (two), 1 team looking for social’s data e.g.: demographic data, and the other team designing the nice map, then we can combine all those collected data to be a GIS (Geographic Information Systems). Great! Peter, clapped his hand!

I was in the second team, designing the map. What we’ve made is a very technical and theoretical map. It’s really good but not good looking, not eye catching, don’t know why, may be coz none of us who came from art or none of us who had art touch.
Just really technical map!

After one week we sat again in the same room, but now with the data that was ready to compile. Then what’s happen?
Great! It’s really happened. We can now saw on the map, where was the best place to put on our new Pizza’s shop. We can now, where were the area that was placed by school, university and the municipality that has a very density population. Can not imagine!

That’s 4 years ago; now, we can use Google Earth a 3D model can be viewed directly with its accuracy 1 meter (especially for US and west Europe). Still with the same data I got 4 years ago, I can put on the Pizza’s shop there, just a right click action to put it on. Exactly in the same coordinate I got.
And last night, I got the information that GE has put out a new vector database with an updated Google Earth Community Forums layer. This data was a snapshot from August 18th, so if you've posted a placemark on the GEC before then, it should now show up. We've rewritten the crawl for this data and should be able to update it more often in the future.

ps. come on hunny, place on your proejct location here! sure your boss will be very satisfied:)

Dora and Maps
As if I could make my map like Dora's map

Like a morning habit, every 7AM on ANTV, channel 8 at my home, my son has sit up nicely and ready for Dora.
Once I wacthed Dora is really interested, we can interact actively. Dora the Explorer is a half-hour animated children's television series starring a 7-year-old Latina girl and her friends. The show is designed to actively engage preschoolers in a play-along, computer-style adventure. Dora teaches many things, about, solving the problem when she and boots got lost, basic English and Spanish, gym, counting, jumping, rowing, clapping, etc.

I graduted from Geodetic Engineering and working closely with maps. I think Dora is one of great point to make maps as an interesting things. When I was at elementary school, dont know why but maps is only one of bored things. Never love to map but I was trapped to Geodetic Eng. when entry the university degree and force me to love map. I know map both theoritically and practically as its application. Thanks GOD, finally I love to work with map. And love to Dora! As if I could make my maps like Dora's map

Now, widely famous online map is Google Earth, we can observe and explore the GE as many kind of purpose. The latest news is we can use elevation model on the GE where we can know exactly the high of our area above mean sea level with the accuracy about 16 m. WOW!

When I went to Geospatial Exhibition at JHCC last week, one of big company like Intermap has explored the GE and their output product is Map with its accuracy about 30 cm of course the add some additional data, but I got the information that the data is world bank's aid so we can get it for free, unfortunately until now, I cant get any resoruce how to get this data. So, when the map is very important, might be interesting, and got for free :)

I hope that one day I can be like Dora. Dora, is a problem solver who doesn't give up when faced with obstacles. She's a caring friend always ready to stop and help someone in need; and she's an adventurer whose curiosity and spirit lead her to explore the world. Dora's a role model not only for children, but for adults, too!

Educational Toys increase your children’s IQ and EQ



My 2 years old son Arsya was twisting his hand just trying to deliver one wooden red circle from one pile to another pile. He is really enjoying playing wire game, while his little sister Kamila, 10 month also trying to catch another wooden blue box from the other pile. Sometime they quarreled to catch the wooden ball or box, but they learn how to share and give in.

As a parent, it’s been guaranteed that we want to see our children to be a sholeh and smart person in the future. Now, we now about IQ, EQ and ESQ, sure we’ve known about all those magical ‘Q’. We have to emphasize that learning is not an inevitable boring process, socializing with their friend is not a scary thing if we can nicely interacting with their neighborhood, family and etc, but all those process should be presented in enjoyable enrichment or their human self.

Talking about IQ and EQ, there are so many modern methods of teaching, so many developmental approaches toward children education, that making the right choice is sometimes overwhelming for the parents and as the result – for the children. But all educators and parents agree that the most natural and therefore the best way for the children to learn is through play means socializing.

Educational toys, developmental games and learning materials are among the most significant ingredients in the recipe to make learning fun. Try to use your child’s favorite method of learning – playing, not sitting in a class, your child will develop more rapidly, more intensive. He will expand his vocabulary and amaze the parents by his mind, creativity and inventions. It’ll be better if we can also invite some or his friends joining this game. Most of educational toys were designed as a group game. How to make the right choice of toys and games? Start from simple books and educational toys, than gradually move to more complex educational games, science activities and puzzles. Follow your child’s interests – pirate games, dinosaur’s activities, electronic playground, play dough animals or marble run construction will inspire his inventiveness, imagination and creativity. Expand their intelligence by introducing the children to math, language, music, art, science, history and geography. Let your boy or girl express him or her in arts and crafts, making music, building a castle or searching for bugs. Create fun environment to make your child mind strong, body strong, people strong, self strong. One most important is to support your children in developing their IQ and EQ.

Now, in Indonesia, we can find educational toys easily, but the prices is still too expensive, I think it‘s still for high end level target. Most of kindergarten has introduced this game to their student. Or for you who want to know more, you can visit www.babycenter.com or www.educationaltoysplanet.com


Have nice surf!

A new logo

After share with my hubby, my friends and my best friend, then...I decided to choose my new logo for my boutique. Here it is.....




A lovely orange show the creatifity and energy that was brought to this new world.
A strong and heavy black show the tough and the seriousity doing this great job.

I open the chance to my friend who will share their product to be posted and sold at my online shop. For every single product you have please welcome, I sell only a unique product and compatitive price. I do appreciate for hand made product and small scale business. Moms, who work at home, I do encourage you to try to sell your product via online shop. When the world now is very small and the communication has gone to the state of art.

Butik Medina....

Alhamdulillah...
finally......, I open a boutique, a virtual boutique, an online shop.
Butik Medina, that was the name which I gave to my boutique, Medina was grabbed from the name of City Medina, the holy city of Moslem, Hope the Medina City blessing will encourage me to do more and more expanding and enriching my boutique :)

Actually, it has been long..long time ago I eager to open a boutique at home, but... as always, I am just a lazy person and many things unuseful consideration to do. My hubby always get stucks with my reason why I just not to talk and stop dreaming, do it now! now!.....

As a mom, I am not dare enough to leave my baby with their baby sitter, my time was full with doing domestic stuffs.

Thanks to Tetty, my best friend also a good dreamer has open my eyes to stop dreaming, also thita who has been bored or the the best word is has vomitted:) tp listen to me about my dream.

I wish your wish and pray.... wish me luck!

Thank You ALLAH

We Are now…

Today, 3 year ago, we made a commitment to live together, to share the joy and sadness under the blessing of ALLAH.
Thank You ALLAH for being with us
Thank You ALLAH for blessing us with your Rahman and Rachim
Thank You ALLAH for giving us your Amanah to take care our beloved children Arsya & Kamila
Thank You ALLAH for taking care our parent
Thank You ALLAH for always growing the love in our family

for ayah, luv u so much....

Jag Ålskar Dig, hunny….

March 18th 2003,
Karlsruhe Hauptbanhof.

Tschuss Novi…..
Take a good care and study hard ya. The words that the Gozans said to me. Shaking my hand, kiss my chic and a big hug from my sister there.
My train went to Heildelberg and change to bus to Hahn. Flied to Skavsta – Sweden.
Maria, the girl from International office picked me up with Marius and delivered me to Björkhågen at Linskold’s home, my new land lady. Very nice wooden home, I live in her basement with polsky girl, Anna ( I called Anya), an Architect Student.

March 19th 2006
First day at KTH, met Huaan Fan, later to be my best helping Professor when I was being there. Not to bad Dept. I was very impressed with the smiley Swedes there. Not like German!

March 20th 2003
In the cold and crowded night.
Shouted the yell “ Stoppa Kriget, Nü! Nü!
Remember?

March 22nd 2003
Pendeltåget to Taby.
Whats a ugly duckling looks a like hunny… a thicky glassy eyes….
(I see the eyes again, the same eyes exactly through my children eyes)

Kista Badminton Hall
Again after teens year pension as badminton player….:)

March 23rd 2003
Alongside the Royal Palace River, with the “camars” and pieces or dried bread.
God! My heart was ‘dum…dum…dum….’

April 7th 2003
Björkhågen
Jag Ålskard Dig........................

August 24th 2003
In front of my beloved father,
Alhamdulillah…..
“Kaulah Anugarah Terindah Yang Pernah Kumiliki….”

What's Marriage Means?

Adapted From: Making Marriage Work For Dummies


When couples complain that they're not communicating, they don't realize that wives and husbands can't not communicate. But are you still communicating, even when neither of you is talking? Absolutely! Communication doesn't require either party to utter a single sound. In fact, you can sometimes communicate louder in silence than you ever could with words.
Imagine the following scenario: You are walking down the street, when a stranger knocks you down and steals your bag. You are terribly upset when you arrive home, and very much in need of your partner's attention. However, after you breathlessly finish telling your spouse about your awful experience, he says nothing. Then, he proceeds to bury his head in a newspaper.
Is your spouse communicating something through his wordless response? You bet he is, and there's probably nothing positive for you in that message.
Perhaps your partner is saying that he doesn't really care about what happened to you. Maybe he's too caught up in his own concerns, or he doesn't know how to respond to yours. Maybe he's just too upset to talk, because he feels powerless to do anything to help you. In any case, that kind of silent communication sends a message that is as loud as any shout.
Communication is about a lot more than talking. Many essential messages are transmitted through attitude, facial expressions, and body language — as well as through words that are left unsaid. Communication is also physical. Your spouse can convey a message of affection by gently touching your hand. However, if he squeezes your hand to the point of pain, that may be a very different kind of message.
To become an effective communicator, you have to pay close attention to what your partner is telling you through his moods, attitudes, gestures, movements, and actions. The flip side of this skill is recognizing the non-verbal messages you yourself are transmitting. You can sharpen your non-verbal communication skills by using the steps in the following sections.
Watch for changes in mood and attitude
Is your normally effervescent spouse suddenly down in the dumps? Is he distracted and forgetful in ways you haven't observed before?
These changes can be signs that there are things going on in your partner's life (or psyche) that he doesn't wish to discuss — at least not now. Still, you may want to say something like, "Honey, I've noticed that you haven't been your usual cheerful self lately." If she still won't address these changes with you, make a written or mental note of these shifts in behavior. Try to remain watchful of how they play out in the days and weeks to come.
It can be difficult to see yourself with the same objectivity you apply to others. But communication is always a two-way street, especially in marriage. That's why it's important to monitor your own tone of voice, attitudes, and other nonverbal behaviors with the same sharp eye you use to observe your spouse.
Tune into body language
Is your spouse making direct eye contact or avoiding your gaze? In general, a person who looks you directly in the eye is assumed to be forthright and truthful. On the other hand, a person who averts his eyes may not want you to know what he's thinking.
You can glean similar information by observing the way your partner's body reacts when you ask him a question. Is his body position relaxed and open, or tense and withdrawn?
In general, a person who maintains a relaxed, open bearing when you ask a direct question tends to be forthright and truthful. On the other hand, a person whose body suddenly becomes rigid may be concealing something.
Look for signs of nervousness or tension
If you notice that your spouse is anxious in the course of conversation, note this as a possible clue that some thought or feeling is not being verbally expressed. Uncharacteristic silence or talkativeness may be another sign.
The rules of interpreting body language and other non-verbal clues are well known to salespeople and others who are skilled in the art of persuasion. A good sales agent, for example, may be able to look you directly in the eye while telling a bald-faced lie. He or she may also be practiced in maintaining a calm demeanor and conjuring up sincere-sounding laughter at will.
On the other hand, the non-verbal communications of some scrupulously honest people may give the mistaken impression that they're trying to deceive you. That's why it's wise not to draw any firm conclusion from any single clue. Instead, incorporate each non-verbal clue into the total picture of what your partner is communicating.
Double-check the meaning of gestures
Every gesture is a communication of some kind. But when each spouse assigns different meanings to the same gesture, it can cause friction in the relationship.
For example, a wife may call her husband at work twice a day because she wants to feel connected. However, the husband can interpret this gesture in a very different way. He may feel that his partner is checking up on him or trying to smother him.
You can easily misinterpret the meaning of a particular signal. Avoid such mistakes by taking the following steps:
· If you're at all unsure, ask your partner to explain her nonverbal communication.
· After you identify the emotion that provoked the gesture, work at addressing it.

Daddy’s hand

Daddy’s hands were soft and kind when I was crying
Daddy’s hands were hard as steel when I’d done wrong
Daddy’s hands weren’t always gentle but I’d become to understand
There was always love in Daddy’s hands.

We remember Daddy’s hands working till they bled
Sacrificed unselfishly just to keep us all fed
If I could do things over, I’d line my life again.
And never take for granted the love in daddy’s hands.
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from:
Mas Arsya & Adik Kamila
Copyright240806 by bunda Luv u Ayah….
Take a good care there ya…
Miss u much….